It’s a mess, that’s what it is. When you land in Hartsfield-Jackson Atlanta Third World International Airport, you’re walking into a battle zone.
It’s nonstop chaos. Airport professionals ride golf carts with loud beeps and flashing lights.
Hordes of business professionals below age 40, speed-walk past you, having loud conversations with their earbuds, dutifully working on their first nervous breakdowns.
Middle-aged Midwestern guys in New Balances, shoulder a tonnage of roller luggage, most of which—you can just tell—belongs to their wives.
Everyone is on their phones
I notice the elderly man across from me. He is wearing khakis and Merrells, the universal uniform of the Old Guy. He is breathing heavily. Hyperventilating, actually. His hands are trembling. He takes a sip of water and almost drops the bottle.
This man is having a diabetic episode or something, I’m thinking.
“Sir, are you okay?” I ask.
He looks at me. His eyes are rimmed pink. I can’t tell if he’s about to cry or not. “Have you ever flown before?” he asks.
“Yes.”
“Well, I haven’t.”
He returns to his trembling.
“I’m eighty-two years old,” he said, “and I’ve never flown. I’ve never been anywhere or done anything.”
This is a man old enough to be my father, but at this moment, he seems very childlike to me. Fear has a way of reducing one’s age.
There is a little girl sitting on his other side. She notices what’s going on. She joins our conversation. She is maybe 10.
The kid says, “What do you mean you’ve never been ANYWHERE or done ANYTHING,’ sir?”
He looks at her. Her hair is in pigtails. She could pass for the Coppertone Girl.
“I’ve only left my hometown twice,” he says. He’s getting more nervous with each word. “I’ve never done anything of note. I’ve never been anywhere.”
“Do you have a family?” the girl says.
He nods. “Four kids.”
“How old?”
“My oldest is fifty-nine. Youngest is… I think she’s forty-four.”
“What about your wife?”
“She’s passed.”
“I’m sorry. How long were you married?”
He takes a nervous swig of water. “Since I was twenty-three years old.”
“What happened to your wife?” the girl asks.
“Breast cancer.”
The girl begins to stroke his back. It’s the sweetest thing you ever saw.
The girl’s mother is simply playing on her phone.
“What do you do for a living?” the girl asks.
“I’m retired. But I was a barber.”
“You cut hair?”
“Men’s hair. Every day, since I was 19 years old.”
“How’d you get started cutting hair?”
“Well, I wanted to go into the Army, but I couldn't because the doctor said I had an irregular heartbeat. So I tried to do something useful.”
The girl smiles. “How many people’s heads have you cut over the years?”
“I don’t know. I think I’ve cut the hair of every man in north Georgia.”
The girl touches his knee. “You’re amazing.”
“Not really.”
The intercom sounds. The airline employee announces that it’s time to board the plane. The little girl helps the man stand onto hobbled knees.
“You’re going to be okay,” she says confidently. “You’ve got this.”
“Right,” the man says. He’s embarrassed now.
“Everyone gets scared the first time,” the girl says. “I was scared when I was a little kid, my mom took me on a flight to Washington D.C. I was crying and everything.”
“Really?”
“Yes. And look at me now. I’ve flown tons of times, and I’m okay.”
“How many times?”
“At least twice. Here, take my hand.”
The man takes her little hand. Her hand is miniature compared to his.
“Sometimes it feels good to hold hands,” says the child. “Sometimes you just need someone to keep telling you that it’s going to be okay. I’ll be that person for you.”
“Okay.”
“It’s nice to meet you, by the way,” the girl adds. “My name is Angela. What’s yours?”
“Robert.”
“You’re a nice man, Robert.”
“You’re a nice girl.”
“Thank you.”
“No, thank you.”
Soon we are boarding, livestock style, and walking the gangway. The child leads the old man toward the gate. He is shuffling. His trousers are baggy. His shirt is crumpled.
The girl is rubbing his back, speaking softly. The old man keeps wiping his nose and eyes.
I tap the girl’s mother on the shoulder. “Excuse me, ma’am,” I say, “But your daughter is an extraordinary person. I am touched by how kind she has been treating a perfect stranger.”
The woman smiles at me. “He’s no stranger. That’s my dad. She loves her grandpa.”
Yes. I believe she does.
Twisted ending!!! Beautiful!!! I am sure the mom playing on her phone was well aware of all that was "playing" out next to her. I know as I was the same kind of helicopter mom when my 2 boys were young. I would observe them at a distance to see how they would interact with others and be amazed at how children can help the elderly and infirm to navigate our confusing world. :) I would witness my children being God's hands and feet in our world. Thank you for starting my day with a most beautiful story that shows the kindness and love in our world!!! Love you, Sean.
‘Contrary to popular belief, human beings cannot multitask. That's one of the reasons that the NTSB reports that texting while driving is the functional equivalent of driving with a blood-alcohol level three times the legal limit. You just can't effectively attend to two things at once — even the superficially automatic ones.
So, how do we stay present? The first thing to recognize is that, try as we might, we really can only do one thing at a time, so we ought to do that thing wholeheartedly. Most of our time is spent in the past or the future, rather than the present moment. What we end up doing is passing through that moment on the way to somewhere else and, in doing so, we miss the moment. That's how life ends up passing us by — we do it to ourselves.’ Michael J. Formica @ psychology today
Children are experts at being present. Adulthood has us bemoaning the past and worrying about the future (intention with flexibility is good). We busy ourselves scrambling after things that don’t matter.
“Angel-a” was aptly named, I pray she retains her compassion for a lifetime. The airport scenario reminds me of an old Harry Chaplin song, ‘ Cats in the Cradle’. Let Harry and Angela
awaken us to mindfulness this day.