“Sean, hi. I just want to ask you if you have any advice on how to show my 14-year-old daughter that I am proud of her. She doesn’t have her father anymore, and she is actually pregnant. I don’t judge her. I know more than anything that she would like to know someone is proud of her, and even though I say it all the time, I don’t know if she knows that. No matter what mistakes she’s made, I am actually very proud of her.”
"Thank heaven for crutches; I couldn't walk without them." Yes, and AMEN! This may be my favorite line you've ever written, or perhaps just the one I'll be quoting this week.
What a laundry list of questions, Sean. But I think your responses are spot on. I related to the parents not hearing from their children. We do hear once in a while, but I remember my husband during his mom's last years, calling her every Sunday afternoon. I would write notes to my mom because she really liked receiving mail, but when I saw my husband calling her every Sunday afternoon, I wished I had done the same. Her last year was spent near us and I went to visit her every day even when she no longer knew who I was, although she thanked me for visiting. So we do what we can for our parents. May they rest in peace! And keep up the good work, Sean. We, your faithful readers appreciate your essays each and every day. Thank you, Sean, for writing to us every day!
This “episode” reminds us that we all share the heavy load of life on earth. But the last one shot me straight through the heart. I always took being a mom so serious and thought my kids loved me but I guess I was wrong. They never reach out to me ever. I was told I did my job correctly, because now they are functioning adults and that was the goal after all. Sure do miss them. They were my world and now my world feels pretty empty. God loves me, this I know.😭🙌🏻✝️
I’ll take the SUV one. You’re out of your cotton picking mind if you get a Jeep anything. An Explorer is good if you have six kids. Get an F150 with a crew cab, put a camper shell on it if you have to, and in 15 years you’ll thank me.
Your words of unconditional love for humans and their humanity instills hope in me. The words of the world are too often not as brave to love this hard. Thank you for being a hopeful voice in my morning. 💫
For the father who dislikes what he perceives as his son’s lifestyle. Please do some research. I have been in your shoes, and I now know my child is who he is, made in God’s image as much as any other. Telling you was probably the hardest thing he has ever done, and shows that he loves and needs you. Don’t throw him away or tell him that he is rejected by the God who made him because of who he is. Let love guide you.
I love your stories, Sean, and I love your observations on the human condition too but today I enjoyed your Q&A. Every one of them. I think each of us can fall under one of the questions if not many and your answers are just what we need to hear. None of us are perfect. We all feel guilty from time to time. We all need to be loved and know someone is proud of us and to find a way to be proud of ourselves sometimes. We all need a little grace and forgiveness and NO ONE is going to hell who believes in Jesus…. And oh my jonas yes cars are expensive so they definitely not talking to me either!!! Lol. Have a beautiful blessed day my friend. And hugs and kisses to Jamie, Becca and the four leggers in your family. Love your friend in Oklahoma
Thank you for more words of wisdom and encouragement my dear friend I am so very grateful to have a friend as loving and kind this world needs more people like you I appreciate you , you beautiful treasure wishing you many blessings my dear dear friend 🙏
Wow! Finally an advice columnist who says it like it is - just like Ann Landers. Bravo, Sean! (Your parents obviously choose the only one sure way to spell your name.) :-)
‘Beautiful people sometimes do dumb things. We all do the best we can with the crummy cards were dealt. Let us hope and pray, friend, that nobody holds our worst mistakes against us.’
Often we don’t know the (awful) history others have endured. It’s with grace and humility our healing can begin. Perhaps for both parties. Relationship over righteousness.
Forgiveness doesn’t excuse bad behavior. But until we learn to be merciful to others we’ll be tortured and harassed by the memories. Worse yet, perhaps repeating the same behavior. Far better not to be dragged down to that depth.
"Thank heaven for crutches; I couldn't walk without them." Yes, and AMEN! This may be my favorite line you've ever written, or perhaps just the one I'll be quoting this week.
Pay attention to the people who stand beside you and stand up for you. And do what’s loving.
What a laundry list of questions, Sean. But I think your responses are spot on. I related to the parents not hearing from their children. We do hear once in a while, but I remember my husband during his mom's last years, calling her every Sunday afternoon. I would write notes to my mom because she really liked receiving mail, but when I saw my husband calling her every Sunday afternoon, I wished I had done the same. Her last year was spent near us and I went to visit her every day even when she no longer knew who I was, although she thanked me for visiting. So we do what we can for our parents. May they rest in peace! And keep up the good work, Sean. We, your faithful readers appreciate your essays each and every day. Thank you, Sean, for writing to us every day!
This “episode” reminds us that we all share the heavy load of life on earth. But the last one shot me straight through the heart. I always took being a mom so serious and thought my kids loved me but I guess I was wrong. They never reach out to me ever. I was told I did my job correctly, because now they are functioning adults and that was the goal after all. Sure do miss them. They were my world and now my world feels pretty empty. God loves me, this I know.😭🙌🏻✝️
❤️❤️❤️ Thank you Sean. I’m lost and this helped.
I’ll take the SUV one. You’re out of your cotton picking mind if you get a Jeep anything. An Explorer is good if you have six kids. Get an F150 with a crew cab, put a camper shell on it if you have to, and in 15 years you’ll thank me.
Dear Sean D, I like your wise replies! The comments "Great" too!
Your words of unconditional love for humans and their humanity instills hope in me. The words of the world are too often not as brave to love this hard. Thank you for being a hopeful voice in my morning. 💫
I signed up for Sean of the South. Somehow Abigail van Buren showed up in my inbox.
For the father who dislikes what he perceives as his son’s lifestyle. Please do some research. I have been in your shoes, and I now know my child is who he is, made in God’s image as much as any other. Telling you was probably the hardest thing he has ever done, and shows that he loves and needs you. Don’t throw him away or tell him that he is rejected by the God who made him because of who he is. Let love guide you.
I love your stories, Sean, and I love your observations on the human condition too but today I enjoyed your Q&A. Every one of them. I think each of us can fall under one of the questions if not many and your answers are just what we need to hear. None of us are perfect. We all feel guilty from time to time. We all need to be loved and know someone is proud of us and to find a way to be proud of ourselves sometimes. We all need a little grace and forgiveness and NO ONE is going to hell who believes in Jesus…. And oh my jonas yes cars are expensive so they definitely not talking to me either!!! Lol. Have a beautiful blessed day my friend. And hugs and kisses to Jamie, Becca and the four leggers in your family. Love your friend in Oklahoma
Thank you for more words of wisdom and encouragement my dear friend I am so very grateful to have a friend as loving and kind this world needs more people like you I appreciate you , you beautiful treasure wishing you many blessings my dear dear friend 🙏
Wow! Finally an advice columnist who says it like it is - just like Ann Landers. Bravo, Sean! (Your parents obviously choose the only one sure way to spell your name.) :-)
‘Beautiful people sometimes do dumb things. We all do the best we can with the crummy cards were dealt. Let us hope and pray, friend, that nobody holds our worst mistakes against us.’
Often we don’t know the (awful) history others have endured. It’s with grace and humility our healing can begin. Perhaps for both parties. Relationship over righteousness.
Forgiveness doesn’t excuse bad behavior. But until we learn to be merciful to others we’ll be tortured and harassed by the memories. Worse yet, perhaps repeating the same behavior. Far better not to be dragged down to that depth.
You're smarter then you think, Sean. That School of Hard Knocks must have some tough curriculum.
One of your best Question/Answer columns. 💙💙💙💙